What is “Cry-bullying”?
Where someone acts as a bully or aggressor, but then defends themselves by claiming to be the victim
GEMINI:
“Cry-bullying” (or crybullying) is a modern colloquial term used to describe a behavior where someone acts as a bully or aggressor, but then claims to be the victim when they are challenged, criticized, or held accountable.
It is essentially a manipulative tactic that blends aggressive behavior with a strategic display of vulnerability or victimization.
How Cry-Bullying Works
A cry-bully typically operates using a specific pattern:
The Attack: They initiate an assault, harassment, or public cancellation against someone else (often under the guise of righteousness, justice, or defending a cause).
The Resistance: The target of their attack defends themselves, or a bystander calls out the bully’s unfair behavior.
The Pivot: Instead of engaging in a fair debate or accepting accountability, the bully immediately feigns extreme emotional distress, hurt, or unsafety.
The Weaponization: They use their self-proclaimed “victim status” to manipulate others into sympathizing with them and punishing the actual victim.
Key Characteristics of a Cry-Bully
Weaponized Vulnerability: They use tears, emotional fragility, or claims of trauma as a shield against any form of criticism.
Moral Superiority: They often cloak their aggression in noble causes, making it seem like anyone who disagrees with them is a bad person.
Inability to Handle Pushback: They can dish out harsh criticism or demands, but view any level of disagreement as a personal, violent assault against them.
Demanding Punishments: They frequently demand that their targets be fired, deplatformed, silenced, or socially ostracized.
Where is the term used?
While it isn’t a formal psychological diagnosis, the term is widely used in social commentary, political discourse, and discussions about workplace dynamics or online cancel culture. It highlights how the social currency of “being a victim” can sometimes be exploited by manipulative people to gain power and control over others.
QUESTIONS:
Have you seen examples of “crybullying” in the past 10 years?
What sort of bullying behavior did the crybullying attempt to shield?
How did the perpetrator claim to be a victim?
Did the perpetrator exhibit an attitude of moral superiority?
Did the perpetrator weaponize self-proclaimed “victim” status to manipulate others into sympathizing with them and punish the actual victim?
Did the perpetrator act with impunity?
Did the perpetrator attempt to avoid a fair debate or accountability?
What sort of punishments did they demand for the actual victim?
DETAIL:
Jewish Currents, “The Hindu Nationalists Using the Pro-Israel Playbook”, Spring 2023.
“Inspired by Jewish groups that cast criticism of Israel as antisemitism, Hindu American organizations are advancing a concept of “Hinduphobia” that puts India beyond reproach.”
Hindu groups parade bulldozers celebrating the bulldozing of Muslim homes.
When they are criticized for home demolitions, the Hindu bullies cry that they are victims of “Hinduphobia.”
A few months earlier, during the month of Ramadan, Indian government officials had sent bulldozers into Delhi’s Muslim neighborhoods, where they damaged a mosque and leveled homes and storefronts. The Washington Post called the bulldozer “a polarizing symbol of state power under Narendra Modi,” whose ruling Bharatiya Janata Party (BJP) is increasingly enacting a program of Hindu supremacy and Muslim subjugation. In the weeks after the parade, one Muslim resident of Edison, who is of Indian origin, told The New York Times that he understood the bulldozer much as Jews would a swastika or Black Americans would a Klansman’s hood. Its inclusion underscored the parade’s other nods to the ideology known as Hindutva, which seeks to transform India into an ethnonationalist Hindu state.
.. nearly 60 Hindu American groups released a statement that shifted the conversation away from rising Hindu nationalism toward fears of Hindu victimization. The signatories—who made no mention of the wheel loader, Modi, or the RSS—claimed that the “hate-filled” Teaneck resolution “[demonizes] the entire Hindu American community.” A couple of weeks later, Hindu activists sponsored ten billboards in north and central New Jersey calling on Democrats to “Stop bigotry against Hindu Americans.” Before long, lawmakers began to denounce the resolution. Teaneck mayor James Dunleavy and New Jersey Democratic Rep. Josh Gottheimer came out against the “anti-Hindu” Teaneck resolution; the New Jersey Democratic State Committee soon followed. In the coming weeks, Booker and Menendez both released statements condemning “anti-Hinduism.”
.. To counter what they view as a rising tide of prejudice, the HAF and other Hindu American groups have turned to American Jewish organizations, which they have long seen as “the gold standard in terms of political activism,” as Maryland State Delegate Kumar Barve said in 2003. Since the early 2000s, Indian Americans have modeled their congressional activism on that of the American Jewish Committee (AJC) and AIPAC; Indian lobbyists have partnered with these groups to achieve shared defense goals, including arms deals between India and Israel and a landmark nuclear agreement between India and the US. Along the way, these Jewish groups have trained a generation of Hindu lobbyists and advocates, offering strategies at joint summits and providing a steady stream of informal advice. “We shared with them the Jewish approach to political activism,” Ann Schaffer, an AJC leader, told the Forward in 2002. “We want to give them the tools to further their political agenda.” Shukla told Jewish Currents that the HAF continues to work closely with the Anti-Defamation League (ADL) and the AJC, whether by “being co-amici curiae on briefs to the US Supreme Court,” or by “lending our support to one another’s letters to Congress.”
Faced with rising scrutiny over India’s worsening human rights record, Hindu groups have used “the same playbook and even sometimes the same terms” as Israel-advocacy groups, “copy-pasted from the Zionist context,” said Nikhil Mandalaparthy of the anti-Hindutva group Hindus for Human Rights (HfHR). Hindu groups have especially taken note of their Jewish counterparts’ recent efforts to codify a definition of antisemitism—the International Holocaust Remembrance Alliance (IHRA) working definition—that places much criticism of Israel out-of-bounds, asserting that claims like “the existence of a State of Israel is a racist endeavor” constitute examples of anti-Jewish bigotry. In April 2021, the Rutgers University chapter of the Hindu Students Council (HSC)—which the RSS has referred to as its “torch bearers abroad”—held a conference to generate a “robust working definition” of the term “Hinduphobia.” (The HSC did not respond to questions.) In an email to Jewish Currents, the HAF’s Shukla wrote that the effort was “similar to members of the Jewish community coalescing around the IHRA working definition of antisemitism.” The resulting definition refers to Hinduphobia as “a set of antagonistic, destructive, and derogatory attitudes and behaviors towards Sanatana Dharma (Hinduism) and Hindus that may manifest as prejudice, fear, or hatred.”
Notice how several senators were fooled into supporting Hundu claims of victimhood.
Puttin’ on the RITZ, Song (Remixed)
RITZ = Rhetorical Immunity (for) Toxic Zionism
Lyrics (draft)
Introduction:
Have you heard them hush the critics?345
Shutting down the real debate1011
A Rhetoric of Immunity14
Shielding15 them from scrutiny
Media is cowed16
A) “Shutdown/Deflect/Distract/Conflate/Project“
Afraid to lose, with a need to excuse19
Shutdown debate with this new trick — 20
B) Unchecked “Immunity” leads to impunity
With no check on immunity,23
Israel’s impunity must be ditched.24
Puttin’ on the RITZ25
C) “Gaslighting/Moral High Horse/Confuse/ Orchestrate Complexity“
Gaslighting is a prefer red tactic26
”Orchestrating Complexity”27 a racket28
Racket tactics29
D) “Immune” by definition“ : there can be no legitimate critics.
No critique can one speak that is legit30 31
to challenge it. One must dismiss
Puttin’ on the RITZ
Interlude
Has the IDF really done everything32
possible to safe guard civilians?33
( Puttin’ on the RITZ )
Disproportionate “Dahiya“-like force for .. 34
creating unbearable civilian suffering353637
“Power Targets“, for the “shock“3839
high rise towers, no need to knock40
4 types of Targets to beware41
“No one is safe” anywhere.4243
The-IDF makes up for error44
Bringing Palestinians terror.45
E) Personal Attacks / Smear/ “cwae“ — “claims without any evidence”46
Smears and attacks,47 Not the issue, nor the facts48
Pressure tactics49 or guilt trips
Puttin’ on the RITZ
F) Misinformation: Atrocity Propaganda:505152 535455565758596061
Coverage is skewed, by Israel’s censors,626364 65
who review66 and act as repressors67686970
G) Suppress / Censor information:
Journalists71 and scholars7273 they do kill 74
Western press and politics they chill7576
Chilling killing
H) But Anti-Semitism and Atrocities are still real
We must not destroy the consensus on the reality of “Anti-Semitism” by conflating it with criticizing Israel
Wolves are real, but critics too, false wolf cries7778
we must review and then dismiss
Puttin’ on the RITZ79
Puttin’ on the RITZ
Puttin’ on the RITZ
Credits:
Singer: Rhea Miller
Music: Irving Berlin, “Puttin’ on the Ritz”, copyright 1927, public domain in 2023
Lyrics: Tim Langeman | original lyrics
Recording & Mixing: Spencer Studios, Lancaster, PA
Instrumental Backing Track: Robby Williams
Full Lyrics & Footnotes
(The footnotes from the original did not carry over to this copy)